I've decided that if you were to break people into apples and oranges, I would always be the orange.
You know, when someone says "It's like comparing apples and oranges?" Yep, I'm the orange.
It is so difficult for me not to play the comparison game. I can think of 4 different instances in the past week alone where I've compared myself to others and always came away feeling like the loser. Like the bad mom who didn't/wasn't/couldn't/wouldn't fill-in-the-blank-here.
But the other night, I lay on the floor with Curly Baby, crying my heart out to God that I was just trying to raise a healthy, happy, well-adjusted family. And as I flew Curly Baby over my head, he giggled and drooled, his chubby cheeks shining with health, and I heard Curly Girl and Boy helping each other search for things in Curly Girl's room and I realized, I am doing just that.
I have a healthy, happy, well-adjusted family. My children are polite and loving and rarely sick; my husband is working a job he loves, enjoys spending time with us in the evenings, has good food on his table and good clothes in his closet; and I am feeling healthier than I have in a long time, I'm happy with the decisions I make in our home each day, and I enjoy my family.
We are healthy - only well-check-up visits for us!
We are happy - we laugh and play and enjoy each other and friends
We are well-adjusted. Yes, we have our arguments, yes, Curly Girl is learning a little sass, but we respect each other and love each other unconditionally.
It's easy to play the comparison game, it's easy to feel like an orange when everyone else is an apple.
But I think you can only really compare yourself to what God wants you to be.
It isn't always easy to know what God wants you to be. It takes dedication and prayer, but I think it is worth it.
In the end, we are all human, and only God's opinion matters anyway.
Post title from My Big Fat Greek Wedding